Unrealistic Expectations Will Set You Up for Failure [Discussion]

By PinkNik on

One really important thing to consider when entering into a committed relationship is your expectations. Unrealistic expectations have brought down numbers of couples (even Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes) before you and your loved one came to be. Listen up, because this advice may save you a lot of headache and heartache.

Picture the preverbal knight in shining armor with a high paying job, washboard abs, mother who is your best friend, and who cries at emotional movies. Now let’s picture the 36 24 36 female goddess who can cook, clean, have good sex and does not nag you when you leave clothes on the floor. While this person may exist, you may not be so lucky to find them single or even at all. By having unrealistic expectations you set yourself and your mate up with much unneeded pressure that will doom your relationship.

No, she may not want to have sex all day every day or he may not want to hear about what you like about Mr. Grey in Fifty Shades of Grey but hey if there is more of them to love than not, you need to calm down. He may sport a 40 ounce instead of a six pack but has your back in every situation and is your rock through difficult times, works his butt off for your family, and will take a bullet for you. She may not have hips like Beyoncé’ or know the difference between the NCAA and the MLB but she is living on a tight budget with you while you pursue your music career.

Unrealistic expectations cloud your judgments of the other person unfairly because you create in your mind this pedestal to place them on. You create this more than human person that when they show the flaws that each of us possess you let these minute details keep you from forever happiness. Your disagreements on movies, sports, and fashion is not what is important to sustain a solid relationship but the core values of life, liberty and happiness that will prevail.

Your other half may seem like a savior to you because relationships were hard in the past, but realistically they have faults and flaws like every other human on Earth. They are not your carbon copy and there will be things for the length of time you are with them that you will not seem to understand about them. Having the sense to love them for who and how they are and for them loving you in a realistic sense will not only allow you to live in the real world but also save you guys much pain.

Realistically there is someone out there for each of us. When we take the time to stop going through the land of make believe it’ll make that special someone easier to find. For however you end up searching for you mate, remember, they will probably look at you the same way.

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About PinkNik

I am an outgoing, independent, and married mother of one. Married to my best friend that I met in the United States Army and am a veteran myself. Currently working as a contributing Relationship, Entertainment Review, and Advice columnist. Working on my Bachelor's Degree in Bussiness Administration which should be complete in 2014 from South University.