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Something To Think About: What We Say Can Reflect In Our Romantic Relationships

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Have you ever thought about something someone said long after the conversation was over? What people say to each other can cause physical and emotional hardship (i.e. failing a math test or gaining weight from overeating) long after the conversation was over which can create friction and arguments from the hurtful words in many relationships.

I do believe that today people are a lot more sensitive than those in our past (political correctness) but in romantic relationships words mean a lot amongst dating individuals.  In fact, in some relationships when the other mate uses the singular word “I” or “me” instead of “we”, “our” or “us” it can create a sense of selfishness to the other person.

We are now a team. Is this reflected in our speech?

 Being more meticulous of what we say and how it effects the ones we love is done positively by effective speakers. Saying what you mean and meaning what you say is the best motto to follow in conflict reduction. Fortunately, there are positive and more productive ways to dealing with conflicts when they arise.

Additionally, stereotypes, prejudices or assumptions are negative and can be used to verbally harm a person.  I personally do not like generalizations because there is no way for one person to know every single person out there and how they behave or act.

Black females always got attitudes or angry all the time.

The words we speak have so much weight on our human emotions whether some would like to agree on this or not.  They guide us to be more professional at work, to mind our manners like mommy did or should have taught us and allow us to speak pet names to our other half.

Will you marry me? You had me at Hello. I knew you were the one the moment I saw you.

How are you doing, sweet thing? I never knew love like this before.  Girl, you be holding a brotha down.

The words we speak should not hold as much ground as the actions we take; however, they are important in their own right.  For example, saying “sweetie” or “baby” before or after a sentence to a loved one can show affection in a small but special way.  (I can’t share the names I have for my darling).

Some might find this among other relationship tips to be cheesy but to them I say; how could this hurt? The words we say to the ones we love can be the last ones they ever hear from us.  What words will your partner  remember you by?

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About PinkNik

I am an outgoing, independent, and married mother of one. Married to my best friend that I met in the United States Army and am a veteran myself. Currently working as a contributing Relationship, Entertainment Review, and Advice columnist. Working on my Bachelor's Degree in Bussiness Administration which should be complete in 2014 from South University.