Get Up, Get Out and Make The Change [Discussion]

The mistake that I and many people have made when getting in a relationship is expecting the other person to fix individual issues we have in ourselves.  If you are not happy with you, than why do you expect other people to be?

My advice for you today is this: if you do not like something about you; change it. This is your life and only yours to live.

Go to the doctor, go buy new clothes, leave that terrible job, and/or go for a walk and loose that weight. Nobody should know you better than you know yourself. So stop feeling sorry, get up and change.

Honey, does this dress make me look fat? Oh, I hate my job.  Man, I wish I could hit the lotto…

Okay, I am not insensitive.  But after you have prayed those long prayers to the Lord asking for help, cried your eyes out, and talked to whomever would listen; then you need to be proactive. You have work to do.

Some people often blame others for their situation: oh it was the white man, my baby daddy or baby mama, my parents weren’t there, and I have had bad relationships in the past.  These same individuals fail to take any responsibility of their own.  Look, everyone has issues. What will you do about yours?

I am going back to school and fixing my credit to buy a house. I just lost ten pounds trying Zumba for a month.

Stop waiting for other people to cure your loneliness, tiredness, and change your own situation.  If you run into someone else chances are they are still trying to discover themselves, get their own lives straight, and doing their own thing.  Fixing your own situation will give you a better sense of self-worth, it will motivate you to follow your own dreams, and it will keep you going when life knocks you down.

We often times get into relationships and then feel empty, incomplete, or unfulfilled. Have you asked yourself where are you to blame?  A mate is supposed to compliment you and add to what you are already bringing to the table not be totally responsible for making you who you are.

Michelle Obama graduated from Harvard too. I met my husband being a Soldier as well. What do you bring to the relationship lots of positives or a whole lot of baggage?

I suggest that if you get yourself together, focus on what makes you unique, and do something with your own life only then should you try to attach yourself to someone else.  By doing this you can better see if that other person is right for you.

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