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Attracting Like Minded People

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That’s why the term, “opposites attract,” was created. It explains why a handsome tall and laid back type of guy will enter a relationship with a loud and short girl. But how often does that happen? According to a study published in the Evolutionary Psychology journal, studies conducted at the University of California at Berkeley, and many others, people mainly attract partners with similar qualities.

Now that the science is out of the way, let’s get into the real. Do you have a friend that’s constantly complaining about the men she attracts? What about a guy who thinks that every woman is a hoe? Let’s not forget about the Facebook and Twitter ranters that constantly post, “I can’t stand good for nothing negros,” or “These ******* not worth my time.”

Whenever I see similar posts, I laugh on the inside a little because you get what you give. Despite what you may have heard, evil does not seek to destroy you. Negativity brews from within and spills out of your pores. No matter how desperately you attempt to hide your narcissism, it will come out and draw in others with the same character flaw.

Don’t believe me?

Do you think that Bill Gates is haunted by broke good for nothings that never get off their butts? Does Oprah spend hours on the phone with her friend that just can’t find a man? Is Jay-Z always complaining about how out of shape his wife is and how she really doesn’t make great music anymore? Does Charlie Sheen cluster near people that say, “Drugs are bad for you?” Probably not. All these people have found success or failure because of their own efforts. Not to mention, they surround themselves with like minded individuals.

The most simple way to rid yourself of “haters” or naysayers is to fill your life with positivity. Set goals and strive for them. Work hard. Most of all, compliment your friends daily, even hourly. Send positive vibes out so that positive vibes flow back inward. Don’t mope around claiming that no one ever helps you the way you help them. Go above and beyond to motivate someone else and watch the negatively charged individuals flee from you.

Sadly but surely: It’s not them boo-boo, it’s you.

About Kashif Ross

Kashif Ross is a California grown writer. He's obtained two degrees that most people have never heard of, a bachelor's in Social Ecology and a master's in Gerontology. Initially, he used writing as therapy to block out all of life's stressors. Overtime his hobby evolved into a passion that made his spouse a writer's widow. When he's not devoting every spare minute to his "Barcode" series, Kashif can be found jamming out on Rock Band, embarking on adventures with manga characters in his twisted mind, or outside playing hide-and-seek with the sun.